Toby Lee Hedge

February 16, 2021

A letter to my family and friends,

On February 16, 2021, my heart stopped beating for the second time in my life. The first time was when I was introduced to my future wife for the first time, but her beauty charged my batteries for the next 40 plus years. Leaving her is my greatest regret. I grew up here in Frankfort, born July 5th, 1965 to Garth (Uncle Lee) and Patricia Louise (Click) Hedge. A year later, I was joined by my sister Penny (Sissy) Hedge Walters. We were raised by very loving and attentive parents, who taught us to love and respect all. My mother and sister survive. I met my wife, Rhonda Ashlock Deckard, daughter of Roy G. and Margaret A. Ashlock, my future children, Jason Deckard and Amy Deckard Garcia, (Joe Garcia), in June of 1979. We became a family when we were married in August, of 1993. I was incredibly blessed to have them in my life. Jason gave me 3 grandsons, Mason, Erek, and Jack. Amy gave me a granddaughter, Alexis (SweetPea) Laflen, and a grandson Collin Laflen and 3 more were added with Leanna Smith, Anthony and Ricky Garcia, when she married Joe. I’ve also been promoted to great-grandfather 8 times (I often bragged that I was already a great grand-father), I also have many nieces and nephews. It is amazing to me that I was included in such a wonderful and loving family and that my goal of being 19 forever was thankfully never realized. One of my earliest memories as a child was of my father tearing apart an old bass guitar in a one car garage when I was 3 or 4. Shortly thereafter, I was playing it in our front room with his band. I was forever hooked on music and began a life long passion with playing and sharing all that I had as a musician. I played every chance I was allowed to sit in, learning as much as I could. I joined a band in 1979 and played for the next 30 years before retiring to my recording studio. Again, I was blessed many times over with being accepted by all of the best musicians around teaching me and allowing me to grow into my own place, with Rhonda right by my side. Her love and support kept me humble and appreciative of what I had been given. We opened Aqua Works Water Softeners in 1998 and ran our business for twelve years with honest and customer friendly service. I would like to thank all of our loyal patrons for their years of support. And a big shout out to my dad, for helping keep the doors open while we were living our dreams. Save me a seat dad! I’m ready to jam with Elvis and Johnny Cash. You can play bass. So now I will say so long until we meet again. God Bless You All!

-Toby Hedge

Visitation and Services

Visitation will be 2-4 p.m. Saturday, February 20, 2021 at Goodwin Funeral Home, 200 S. Main St., Frankfort. Funeral services will begin at 4 p.m. at the funeral home. Out of respect for the health, safety, and comfort of all in attendance, guests will be expected to adhere to current CDC guidelines regarding appropriate social distancing and the wearing of masks.


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58 Condolences for “Toby Lee Hedge”

  1. Julie Sagarsee February 18, 2021 at 2:55 pm

    Prayers and hugs to all of Toby’s family. God bless and keep you, make His face shine upon you.. and give you peace.
    Love Julie Sagarsee

  2. Jenny Smith February 18, 2021 at 3:43 pm

    Penny there are no words that I could say that would ease your pain at this time. Please know YOU and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  3. Susan Payne February 18, 2021 at 3:50 pm

    Toby I loved listening to you and I have very fond memories of you and I’m so blessed to call you my family.

  4. Kelly and Danny February 18, 2021 at 4:09 pm

    Goodbye Toby, Forever Young

  5. Connie Remaly Robbins February 18, 2021 at 4:19 pm

    Rhonda, I am so sorry about your loss. Toby was a good guy, I miss hearing about his remodeling adventures. You are in my prayers.

  6. Rick Arion February 18, 2021 at 4:38 pm

    I remember your big smile and your infectious energy. Congratulations on your wonderful family. God bless Penny and your entire family. Rest in Peace and Music.

  7. Jenny Cahoon February 18, 2021 at 4:38 pm

    Rhonda and family, Gone too soon. Your great love story will be what I always remember the most about Toby and you. We are so so sorry for your incredible loss. He wrote a moving obituary.

    Jenny and Jeff Cahoon

  8. Keith Gephart February 18, 2021 at 4:38 pm

    I’ll never forget you playing the piano with your feet just like Jerry Lee at the young age of maybe ten. You may be gone young man but never forgotten by many. RIP Toby…gone too soon. Prayers to all the family.

  9. Denise (Staley) Bray February 18, 2021 at 4:53 pm

    Rhonda. So sorry for your loss. We no not the day nor the hour our loved ones will leave us. Looking back, I’m thankful I didn’t know.

  10. Cathy McKinzie February 18, 2021 at 5:24 pm

    What a heart felt letter from him. May you always remember him smiling at you. Sorry does not seem enough but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Lots of hugs to Pat and all.

  11. Jim Ferguson February 18, 2021 at 5:39 pm

    Sending heartfelt prayers to Rhonda and family. Keeping you in my prayers.

  12. Dale A. Snoddy February 18, 2021 at 5:52 pm

    Toby, I will forever treasure and find comfort in the saved correspondence between you and me after only recently rekindling our acquaintanceship which ultimately evolved into a friendship. And I will repeat here what I told you early on. I defy anyone who knows you not to smile when they hear your name. Thanks for showing me how to be curious, loving, and brave. So long, parker shakes.

  13. Sunny Thompson February 18, 2021 at 6:13 pm

    How lucky we were to enjoy Toby’s wonderful talent, wit and charm when he performed! We all shared some great fun with each other at those gigs. Phil always felt his bass, keyboard & vocals made the stage come alive. I often think of those days & miss them. I will miss our friend & the stage will be much dimmer without his presence on it, but I know Phil will be so happy to see & sing with him again! Peace to you, Rhonda, & each in your family.
    Sunny Thompson

  14. Paul Creasy February 18, 2021 at 6:33 pm

    I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Toby. I haven’t seen him in several years as I moved to Kentucky 13 years ago. Toby and I were friends and helped many times with some of the bands he played in. Toby was a great guy and will be missed by many! My Condolences to Rhonda and all of the family. RIP My Friend

  15. Kim Ashlock February 18, 2021 at 6:45 pm

    May God Bless you all at your time of sorrow. Love always, Kim Ashlock

  16. Jim Guffy February 18, 2021 at 6:56 pm

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very sad time. We always thought a lot of Toby and Rhonda. He will be sadly missed. God bless you all

  17. Mark Mowery February 18, 2021 at 7:24 pm

    Sorry for your loss. I always enjoyed taking to Tony. We will be praying for you all.

  18. Melanie & John Byers February 18, 2021 at 7:58 pm

    Rhonda, I am so very sorry to hear about Toby. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your entire family on your loss.

  19. Steve & Karen February 18, 2021 at 8:15 pm

    Our thoughts and prayers are with Rhonda and family. Love you guys. Steve & Karen

  20. Bill Carson February 18, 2021 at 8:18 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear this news. Toby was a great man that I was so glad to have known my whole life. For the family during this difficult time.

  21. Jeanie And Gary Thompson February 18, 2021 at 8:24 pm

    So sorry for your loss, Pat. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

  22. Lonette February 18, 2021 at 8:25 pm

    Rhonda, we are so saddened to hear of Toby’s passing. He was a wonderful and caring man. He will be missed by so many. You are deeply in our prayers and thoughts. Our Love, Dave and Lonette

  23. Zenaida Klutzke February 18, 2021 at 10:48 pm

    My sincere condolences to all of the family. Toby was a great guy, who was a good grandfather to my grandbabies and great grandbabies. I’m glad I had the pleasure of meeting him and welcoming him into our family. So sorry for your loss, may God Bless him and may he rest in peace.

  24. Sheryl Thomas-Nikpoor February 18, 2021 at 11:03 pm

    So truly sorry for your loss Rhonda. Beautiful memorial video. Hugs from afar. Sheryl

  25. Cynthia K. Henninger February 19, 2021 at 2:50 am

    Prayers and hugs, so sad to hear of Toby’s passing. Wayne and I will keep your family in our prayers

  26. Sarah Bogard February 19, 2021 at 6:54 am

    Pat sending love and prayers! Big hugs for you and all your family!

  27. Jane (McKee, Bell) Gipson from Donaldson February 19, 2021 at 7:01 am

    So sorry to hear this news. Keeping you all in prayer for comfort and peace.

  28. Tina Shaffner February 19, 2021 at 7:48 am

    Penny and Rhonda
    I’m so sorry to hear about Toby’s passing. I have such fond memories from the days of the action shack. Know prayers will be lifted​ up for your family.

  29. Susan A. Lee February 19, 2021 at 8:43 am

    So sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers.

  30. Rick & Tanny Irwin February 19, 2021 at 9:15 am

    What an amazing tribute! Toby was a really great guy! So sorry for your loss! Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers!!!

  31. Anne McCune February 19, 2021 at 9:53 am

    Rhonda, keeping you in our prayers. Remember all the great times! Love, Greg and Anne

  32. Rosie Wright February 19, 2021 at 10:06 am

    Me and the girls want you and your family to know how sad we are for your loss. We have so many good memories! My girls made the comment that he can still play music with his old friends. You are in our prayers. Rosie, Amy and Abby

  33. Dan & Mary Pugsley Pat King February 19, 2021 at 10:42 am

    If ever you need anything we can do, all you need to do is call. We want to wish you the best and let you know how much we love you and Toby. Please let Rhonda know we are thinking of her too. God is by your sides helping you along the way.

  34. Dena Barkley February 19, 2021 at 11:12 am

    Sorry for his families loss. He was always such a great guy. Fly high buddy!

  35. Gia & Brad February 19, 2021 at 1:26 pm

    Penny, our hearts go out to you and family during this difficult time.

  36. Rosanne Poole Vale February 19, 2021 at 3:06 pm

    I remember Toby as he was a beloved classmate at Frankfort. He was always smiling, great attitude, so very friendly and kind. And of course his musical talent was always amazing. I’m so sorry to have learned he was suffering from Parkinson’s… my dad suffered from Parkinson’s for 30 years, I understand the toll it takes. My heart goes out to Penny and Toby’s family.

  37. Lynn Maish February 19, 2021 at 3:47 pm

    To Rhonda and Toby’s family, my thoughts and prayers for you all. Everybody loved Toby! He was a bright light with his million dollar smile, again thoughts and prayers Rhonda

  38. Anjie Bond February 19, 2021 at 5:35 pm

    I knew Toby from high school…always had a smile on his face and such a sweet guy! The video was beautiful. It looks like he had a lot of love in his life. Prayers and peace for his family.

  39. DeAnn Berry February 19, 2021 at 5:42 pm

    Rhonda and family,
    So sorry for your loss. You’re in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
    Jason and DeAnn

  40. Lisa Cox February 19, 2021 at 5:53 pm

    Toby will be missed so much by the Milholland and Cox family’s. He was a wonderful musician and songwriter. Toby’s music and kindness will be missed. Our prayers are with Toby’s family.

  41. Sally Mitchell February 19, 2021 at 6:23 pm

    Rhonda so sorry for your loss sending prayers and hugs.

  42. Bob Taylor February 19, 2021 at 7:20 pm

    Never will forget your talent and your infectious smile. RIP

  43. Paula Smith Cromer February 19, 2021 at 8:06 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Prayers to the family.

  44. Mitch Ball February 19, 2021 at 9:12 pm

    My heartfelt and warmest sympathy to Rhonda, Pat, Penny, children and grandchildren. Toby’s never-ending kindness, good humor, and heart of gold will be forever treasured through our fond memories of him. In the midst of the sadness, may you find peace and comfort through this difficult time. Know that from afar you are in my prayers.
    With love, Mitch Ball

  45. Debbie Stidham Crowe February 19, 2021 at 10:08 pm

    Pat and Sis, My heart breaks for you! I want you to know that you are in my prayers!! May God surround you with his loving peace. I am so very sorry for the loss of Toby! Much love to you both!!

    Debbie Stidham Crowe

  46. Jerry Stowers February 20, 2021 at 7:53 am

    Toby was a great guy and musician! He will be missed by all who knew him! I’m deeply sorry to hear of his passing and hope his family can move forward knowing he’s in another place where pain is no more! I send you my prayers!

  47. Todd Weber February 20, 2021 at 8:53 am

    Thoughts and prayers to the entire family, so sorry for your loss. What a musical talent !!!

  48. Debbie Baker February 20, 2021 at 8:53 am

    Rhonda and Family, so sorry for your loss. Prayers for peace and comfort.

  49. Lora & Bill Layton February 20, 2021 at 9:23 am

    To Pat & all your family, so sorry for the loss of your son. Thinking of you at this sad time.

  50. Lori Skoblicki February 20, 2021 at 9:53 am

    I’m still speechless! what an awesome guy you are Toby! I remember all the fun times we had together. Although Rhonda is just heartbroken without you physically here she knows your by her side always! Love you

  51. Melinda February 20, 2021 at 1:39 pm

    Pat, Penny, Rhonda and all of Toby’s family; I’m so sorry for your loss. Toby was such a special and sweet person. I’m praying for comfort and peace for all of you.

    Melinda Moudy-Justus

  52. Erick Dircks February 20, 2021 at 4:55 pm

    Goodbye Toby! You will always have a special place in my heart. I watched you grow up into a wonderful man. Wishing you all the best on your new journey to meet all the other fantastic musicians in heaven. God Bless You!!
    Prayers for all your family and friends!!

  53. Kyle Kercheval February 20, 2021 at 5:32 pm

    I was lucky enough to have know Toby and to have played in a band with him, great guy. He will be missed by all who knew him, prayers to the family.

  54. Linda (Cheek)Schweitzer February 20, 2021 at 8:27 pm

    Love the memorial video sorry for your loss my thoughts an prayers are with you all!

  55. Candy & Fred Cheek February 21, 2021 at 11:45 am

    Pat & Rhonda, So sorry to hear about your loss.

  56. Monte & Susan Zinkan February 25, 2021 at 11:46 am

    Rhonda, so sorry to hear of Toby’s passing. Remembering the music jam we had at our house many years ago!

  57. Jeffrey Coffman February 26, 2021 at 9:18 pm

    Toby your exit video told the story behind a good musican,father,husband.I was not aware of your sickness and I always admired your ability and you were always fun and nice to everyone you meet.Good bye buddy you are missed.Jeff Coffman.

  58. Rhonda Metzger February 28, 2021 at 8:56 pm

    I remember Toby as the fresh young new musician in town. I remember being amazed that he was so young but talented enough to play in the bands with the guys around town. Always smiling. Wish I would have really known him. I’m very sorry to hear of his passing. Love and prayers to the family, especially you Rhonda.

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